00 like 007 and you, my Chinese friend could not possibly be so tall, so strong, so handsome, or able to lick your own balls or be remotely so cool as OP ;-)

Ok, thank you all internet warriors, for your relevant input, and sticking to the topic. I didn't get much from this thread but must confess I had some laughs.

@Tonyaod, U on the spot, sir ! Yes and remember to mind all your female relatives, I heard there are still a lot of cro-magnons around trying to club em down the head and drag em to their cave for some disgusting and primitive intercourse.
Seriously, you don't need to 'wonder" much; do you honestly find any fault in this man's approach to dating? www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlIZlbsmOqc

@Geezer, and unfortunately I predict even more international-level class-clown wit. Gotta love people who use their free time for very productive endeavors. Can't lick em myself, but if you are interested in my balls sorry to disappoint you, not even with Listerine, friend.

@Yankee, now cut the crap, u wish you had those, huh? Hey don't fret, god already blessed you with something; Sarcasm (+ apparently a great deal of time to courageously post it on a forum).

@Magnifico, agreed, more to life than being good looking, specially because in most part, it isn't a choice.

However, I see this as no excuse not to engage in physical activity as every man should strive to be physically strong. Ancient Greek and Roman culture highly encouraged intellectual and ethical development, but also revered strength and good care of the body and lifestyle, as these can also bring good mental repercussions.

my take is this, its pretty tough for a guy to show emotions in this culture. it does not in any way get better for him because of expectations and living up to it

if there a need to show of emotions for them does not guarantee that can lead to a great relationship if the test for looking for a partner comes more of initially showing physical things like not just a stable job but a high paying one, i mean the norm of the salary here is kunming if you get 3-4k a month its already consider high. so go out with a woman or a girl in this stage now in kunming im betting you would be spending around 1-2k a month with gifts or not depends on your creativity.

aside from the job, it doesnt hurt your chances more if you get to have cars or your own place, but the fact is the effort your showing means how much your willing to spend.

honestly, some chinese women would be loud or blunt like a chinese girl i know throw this out saying, would you be happier to know your husband makes 4k and gives you 3k a month as to a husband who makes 10k a month but just gives you 3k a month. as to those silent type which would say im not looking for the rich type or i dont have high standards for men as long as he love me. loves here is not just the time you give but the effort you do like gifts, could be not expensive or the way she is treated in the princess feeling you can give. if you dont get me on the second type its just she doesnt say she wants tht and that but when the time you buy her stuff she is happy even if its the simple things or not expensive all the time.

after all that the expectations to be treated or pampered, im not saying chinese women are bad its just the way it is since mostly are a single child so what do you expect from them but be greedy or selfish. i mean they do admit it you know. so it comes to the fact that when they are sick you rush to their home and be with them or give them medicines or whatever.

so why there should be a need for emotions when its like that kind of effort, i mean yeah you can be corky or funny, cheap food or drinks those work if you want a date or just dating but to hit the homerun or take home the prom queen it takes much more than that.

before you get to the emotions stage, the primary issue to get started has nothing much to do with it especially a large chunk of it is at the start.

Called me naive, but people need some kind of connection in order to have a romantic relationship. Yes, of course, practical things like money are important, but getting the girl requires more than just buying her gifts and looking after her, it's usually a combination of luck (circumstances), looks, pheromones, and most importantly - shared thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Why do dogs lick their balls? Because they can. Why do men lick their own balls? Because no one else will do it for them. 1.4 billion people in China and more than half of them are women. If you can't get a date in China then there is something wrong with the guy. China has women looking for all the above, marriage, frienship, sex, ONS. It is a matter of looking for what you want.

Not sure about the more than half are women bit, especially when you factor out the under 16s and the over 60s and factor in the preference for boys that led to a (admittedly unknown) number of missing baby girls. Official stats suggest around 30million, but of course there are probably many girls whose births just weren't reported and so don't appear on the records. Also, the vast majority of the women are looking for a serious boyfriend that will lead to a husband, although I think for foreigners some girls are happy to just try the sex (perhaps out of curiousity) without wanting a long term relationship.