Ok, I agree with some on here saying this is more of a "do not marry KM Dragon's wife" more than a "do not marry Chinese". Yea I agree there are a dozen chinese that'll rip you to pieces. I hate to break it to you, but I have about 1 Chinese friend I practically call part of the family for every 15-20 people I call friend.
There's a LOT of ends to cover in this. First thing's obvious, most chinese are only child, and thus think they need to be propped up on a golden pedestal as their parents did for them growing up. Another I find is this attraction to material wealth (money, jade, jewelry, teddy bears). They grow up with the belief that men are pussies (seriously I was at a net bar last night and there's a dude streaming young gay porn vids on 1 computer and another playing LOL while loudly singing along with Hannah Montana and Lady Gaga).
I dont know if you've already done somethin about your relationship?
First, I would suggest try making life more interesting. Do things together. FUN things. Hell if I were back in Kunming I'd be dragging my chick off to play mini golf or to a theme park somewhere.
Second, I agree that before marriage you should live together, but I've been hit with the speech more than once that guy/girl unmarried sharing a place is unnatural.
Third, don't use the reflective mirror technique. Yelling and throwin shit is only going to increase the tension. You know what I'd do if a chick did that to me? I'd fuckin run at them, tackle 'em, and give them a big hug.
Fourth, you were told this by your dad or bros when you first began dating. There's millions of fish in the sea. IF things are not working, it's time to start asking WHY you are in this shit hole in the first place? It's time to consider just walkin out the door and never lookin back. Chicks do it all the time to us, and we always go crawlin back with apologies, right? I'm not saying you should pull the same tactic. What I am saying is actually consider leaving because an uhealthy relationship is gonna cause you a lifetime of stress and stress causes age and early death. Dude, if you managed to get this girl, I'm assuming then you're somewhat successful (have a job, money, etc). My point is, just walk outside and you'll find another chick that wants a relationship with a stable man in a snap.
ON the healthy relationship thing, I'm not sure how true this fact is. I was watching a youtube fact vid about aging and longevity which claimed that being single is actually better for your health than being hitched. Of course, the next piece of advice was if you DO hitch, make it work. I don't think the point is you should be a single player. I think what they're saying is sometimes having some "me" time and just chilling with friends is important. I've heard it a dozen times; one who smiles lives longer than one who frowns or cries. I guess that's why deep in our hearts we choose to major in something that we find interesting, we search for a job we find that we love, we desire in our hearts to be happy by the belief that owning an expensive sports car parked in front of a beach house is the ultimate dream. Ultimately, life is about being happy, and if you're not in a happy place, then it's time to pack your suitcase and move.
Don't look back with regret. Life's a 1 time deal. It's short. Live it. Love it. Laugh.