So, are the guys who constantly praise Mainland Chinese women and end up marrying them mostly divorcees or guys who had a hard time dating in the West?

Don't know about the others - - but (back then) I was a Navy officer (SEAL) and considered a "hunk" by several ladies. The gal I fell in love with just happened to be Chinese. In the long run - - it's love that counts - - not race!!

Cheers - - JJ

I can't agree more with you. That's why I don't understand why many foreign guys in China would criticise Western women and praise Chinese women. Surely what has been discussed earlier in this thread could be related to women in any part of the world. Dividing women into racial groups to compare their appearance and stereotypical behaviours wouldn't be the best approach.

As for the guys who could only say good things about their wife, I only guess that they are madly in love.

It's not so much race as it is compatibility. Though certain races are deemed this and that.(Ex. more submissive or arrogant, etc.). In the end it's about love.

All you need is love. And a gucci.

My wife comes from a family of many generations of medical practitioners. TCM doctors, and pharmacists. She has a strong set of personal values, and is not materialistic. She quit a job in a 'dirty' industry to study overseas, which is where we met.
I had not 'targeted' asian women. We just met and hit it off. We then got to know each other before deciding on marriage.

We both have a lot in common, and I keep coming back to this, commonality is a key factor in any relationship. That is one reason why people back home tend to date and marry into the same social class. We had both been married before. Our ages are similar, we were both studying the same subject (MBA as a second post-grad degree), as mature students, at different universities. We were both at a similar professional level, although in different industries. We share common values, about people, and money. We both want similar things out of life and for our future. We are friends first and lovers second.
No relationship is perfect, or easy. You have to work at them. But without any commonality, there is less to work with, and perhaps the differences can be harder to overcome.

@JJ used a phrase 'are you considered a "nice guy" or are you a bar rat'. I loved that one.

If a guy meets a girl and is mainly after fun, and he meets a girl who is only after greencard or greenbacks, they can both get what they want. But it does not mean that the relationship will be edifying.

Many western men want a lover first, and then see what develops. A lot of Chinese women are looking for a husband first. That is also a source of tension.

Even back home it can be hard to find a compatible partner. There are girls I would want to date, and girls I would run a mile from. Problem is, until you get Chinawise, you don't know which ones to run from.

I would suggest that if you have to do the chasing in China, then you are probably onto one of the good ones :-)

I had to chase my girl a bit until she finally came to her senses!

I never came here looking for love and never suffered from "yellow fever" which is obviously chasing girls for the way they look. But hell, I will definitely accept being attached to an attractive girl! A line up of my past girlfriends look like a UN conference so really I can't be accused of chasing Asian tail! I had no problem with girls in the west, but it did seem to me they were becoming less and less interested in family and more and more narcissistic and high maintenance the older they got. But at the same time they were much more interesting and well rounded having diverse tastes and experiences. My wife is the complete opposite which makes for an interesting change, but she is still quite young so opening up her eyes to many things.

Tigers right though, shared values, similar education levels, similar personalities are what leads to a good relationship. Cultural differences are a source of strength too, IF you are both open to changing even your core beliefs. Otherwise they are a source of frustration in your relationship.

Excellent story JJ, awesome!

MOST chinese women are not Fat.
Most chinese women do not have multiple facial and body piercings.
Most chinese women do not have multiple and visible tatoos.
Most chinese women do not smoke.

Ha ha, the western woman vs. chinese woman debate rages on.

what about western men vs. chinese men? i think that hasn't been debated enough.

i'll go first. western men NEVER carry man-bags. much too cool for that.