My partner here is suffering from recurring severely crippling episodes of what I believe is a serious anxiety / panic disorder. Jobs, social interactions, physical activities that seem like nothing to most people may suddenly cause her to implode with episodes lasting from hours to weeks. She is convinced that she has a serious 'heart condition', but no doctors have been able to diagnose anything like that. However, *ALL* the physically debilitating symptoms she experiences are in line with my online research on anxiety / panic disorder and I want to get her the proper diagnosis and treatment ASAP. She's a smart, extremely talented young woman whom I care for very much and I can't bare to see her suffer with this so much. Can anyone with knowledge or personal experience recommend a treatment facility here in Kunming? ...or in China in general?
You can take her to local hostpitals, like YunDa hostpital, but you may need a translator if you don't speak Chinese.
Psycological disorders are strongly stigmatised in China and along with emotional disorders, availability for proper, honest and unbiased treatment is still new and rare.
It might be better to seek treatment for her on your next trip abroad or to Hong Kong.
If she gets prescribed psychoactive drugs, make sure those don't increase risks of suicidal thoughts, especially after stopping taking them.
While you are continuing your research, you can both read about a few self-help practices (which might at first seem trivial), like:
- daily exercise (boosts serotonin),
- cognitive behavioural therapy exercises for social anxiety, or cognitive group behavioural therapy
- why eliminate caffeinated drinks such as coffee and tea
- the calming effects of chamomile tea on anxiety
- why eat a magnesium-rich diet (banana, pumpkin seeds, ZMA, spinach, tuna, 80%+ dark chocolate, avocado)
- getting involved in a volunteer group to help OTHER people
- attending an educational group that helps improve social confidence, such as Toastmasters.
are these new or has she always had them. does she have over critical parent
Thank you for the responses! @Jenny Wu: She's Chinese - I'll look into that; @yankee00: That's what I thought - especially in regards to going abroad, though that's of course easier said than done, though not impossible...perhaps in Thailand (?) I think all the self help behavioural suggestions are good ones and certainly won't hurt. @Dazzer: Her mother seems to have had similar symptoms in her life from what I gather...but it's not something that has ever been diagnosed to even talked about much other than as a 'character flaw'.. Also, from what I gather, it seems that my partner seems to have it much worse off in terms of intensity. i do know that doctors in China had routinely dismissed her as well as 'imagining things'. It seems that her episodes have increased in frequency and intensity in the last year, but from what I understand, she has had them periodically for several years prior.
@mr_microphone
Not to be disrespectful but I have a few questions.
How long have you known her? You use the word 'partner' which is ambiguous.
Are you courting her? Is she seeing you as a 'boyfriend'? I only ask because if she does have' mental issues' you might be in danger. Depending on how long you have known her and how close you are, I would 'get out' while you can. Be careful.
liu dont ruin this girls free meal ticket!
@Liumingke1234: I appreciate it. This is our third year together though we are not married.
Believe me, I've considered just 'bailing' on more than once occasion recently though I'm not quite willing to give up just yet. The hardest thing is seeing someone so talented, giving and well....just decent being held back from something closer to a normal life by what I believe is a semi-common treatable condition (at least in the west). I think the cultural stigma is the biggest hurdle here - and access to resources one can trust. ...and no...aside from the great stress it causes me, I don't believe I'm personally in actual 'danger' though I appreciate the concern.
@laofengzi- thanks for the input, bro :) I'm hardly her meal-ticket.
She is trying to navigate her life with limited information. Of course that is going to lead to anxiety. It's going to lead to even more anxiety if you can easily imagine bad outcomes.
It's not going to solve her anxiety (completely) but I think a good start is to encourage her to be a more active actor in her own life, to see herself as the master of her own universe instead of subject to forces beyond her control.
If she is anxious about her heart, encourage her to read high quality books on the subject (hoping it won't lead her to imagine she has every illness described in the books).
She will understand the causes of heart disease, the symptoms, and do tests to see if she suffers from them. (diet has a very big influence on cardiovascular disease). You can buy a blood pressure monitor
You are not a psychologist I imagine, so getting a diagnosis might be a good first step, then reading up on the subject.
Knowledge is key.
I second yankee's recommendations.
reheart disease, ther is a tendancy to hypochondria in the culutre