Cross-cultural expectations are often strange & confusing to navigate. I'm sure there are people here who can testify to how rich & precious cross-cultural relationships can be, but it requires some adjustment, especially by the foreigner seeking to enter into the culture in that way.

If you mean by adjusting to the culture, practices such as these:

A) Wining and dining women with ulterior motives (in hopes of having a relationship/intercourse with her later)

B) Having several dates with "chaperones" on the side

C) Developing a friendship before announcing your intentions to a girl (which could often shock her AND make you lose your time).

D) Being made an "honorary teacher" or "girl friend".

If these are what you mean by adjusting, I will rather continue with my honest approach to dating. Even if I get rejected more, which is OK because it doesn't make me lose my time, and for the wise-hunching guys here, this includes girls whom I'm considering for long term relationships.

Now for men who do get 2:00 AM door knocking from frustrated girls that have been lied to (which never happened to me in my 5 years here ) these do seem to need to "adjust", and not just to this country.

Yeah, not everyone is able to adjust to the romantic aspects of a new culture.

Western dating is often more casual, as well as more direct. As a Westerner I agree that directness is a virtue. But we have to try to understand our host culture. As a generalisation, dating is not so casual here. But with reflection, I think even us Westerners can see some benefits to a long-term relationship of being friends first before it proceeds to something deeper.

@Spartans: I think your A & C are not particularly specific to Kunming, China or Asia; B is perhaps something one might have to adjust to here, and in several other countries, but of course you can simply not date people who are into it. I'm not sure I understand D.

guess the op is just giving his arrogance opinions and he don't even read others posts properly before reacting to them mind your head on the way out.

Makes me wonder, is the OP just randomly walking up to "beautiful" girls and saying things like, "Hey there hot stuff, wanna come over my place and shag?" or "I wanna bang the s**t out of you but don't mistake that for wanting to be your friend."

I think it's pretty plain how the OP view women and courtship in general;there's not much point in continuing the discussion.

To each their own.

Ciao~

"I'm tall, strong and I get compliments"

LMAO! That guy made my day.

"Basically", I bet I get laid in 6 months more than that this guy above got in 6 years. I'm tall, strong and I get compliments almost daily about how handsome I am, from women, children and even guys, and not just in China. I have even worked as an actor for CCTV several times and do modeling."

And I can lick my own balls!

"I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is."
— Zoolander [3% body fat, 1% brain activity]

@Magni: Can you define narcissistic for us? I predict we will see a post claiming humility, along with martial skills, an extraordinary IQ and a '00' designation. Its great to be great!

'00' designation as in yankee00? I know nothing about martial skills!