Culture changes. Driving culture in China does not presently satisfy many drivers. To mention this should not be taken as some attack on Chinese culture in general - I don't think that's what the great majority of drivers, who are of course Chinese, mean to do when they recognize that traffic conditions could and can be better. Things change, it takes time, unfortunately, and there's no point in defending the present in the name of face.
In the meantime, as always, one must live with imperfection. Best not to contribute to it.

Corto, you can get all of what you are asking for, even the AC, probably, though you really won't need it.

Languages to be used at homeschool?

OK then, vent, people need to vent, it's better than irresponsible explosions (note dangerous explosion at Salvador's one night 2-3 years ago), but please don't make mountains out of molehills or go about insulting people. Why not just vent in the garden shed, or with friends in private somewhere? Gokunming is a public forum, better for using brains than exploding about not-yet-familiar annoyances. Me, I shout at my computer, don't think I'll ever adapt fully to the *&%# little bastard.
As for culture shock, it's pretty common, but a lousy experience while it lasts. My sympathies, I've had to go through it more than once, but it's possible to get through it.

And yeah, the traffic is a mess, I agree - and every single driver on the road has to deal with it. Most succeed. No, you don't have to like it.

I'd be embarrassed too.