@ zhulaoye I see u r repeating urself here and on another thread. U seem upset. Perhaps u have been living in China for some time and are used to Chinese people being too polite and respectful of ur advanced age to tell u off when ur being nasty. Luckily for u I am here to help u in this regard.

ur new friend

Daithi

@ Rachelc I dont think u were naive or silly at all. U raised an issue u encountered on an anonymous forum frequented by people with whom u probably have a lot of cultural common ground. They gave u advice. U then had a chat with your friend in a frank but friendly way about a rather delicate subject. I say well done! Gossip is idle talk and rumour whereas u had a genuine situation to explore.

Good for u!

@ zhulaoye Ur funny :) Like kinda comical but yeah also horrible like in this dictionary definition......

2. extremely unpleasant; deplorable; disgusting: horrible living conditions.

Im a tad confused as to y u would argue with this when to be horrible is plainly ur intention.

Im also a tad confused as to y ur suddenly so interested in my writing style? I am perfectly happy with it myself. I pretty much write in the same way I talk. I can if I so choose construct a pristine grammatically correct sentence. I dont bother tho. U think its a little girly...ok Im fine with u thinking that. But I will have u know I have never ever misplaced an aspostrphe nor an aspostrphe in my life.

Confusion abounds cos I did not say u want to remain a 30 year old I said

"If u wanna spend ur remaining 30 odd years wallowing in negativity the thats up to u....."

Well actually I didnt use 5 dots then......I just added them now for fun :) And I dont joust. Jousting has connotations of friendly banter to me. But u should be told every now and then that ur behaviour is nasty. Not for ur benefit but to let others know its not cool.

@zhulaoye "all those phoney people" Thats quite sad u think that automatically but hey thats ur problem.

Actually I have little interest in u but I felt like calling it out when u were so nasty to someone for no reason. So I clicked on ur user name and saw ur previous posts. I wouldnt call it research but I it helped me get an idea of what ur like alright. My posting was not for ur benefit. If u wanna spend ur remaining 30 odd years wallowing in negativity the thats up to u but I liked the her attitude and so had my say.

As to what I want ....well u dont know. U think u do cos u assume the worst of people all the time. I guess Id feel more sorry for u if u werent so horrible but life is short so ..shrugs.

@ zhulaoye Next u make assumptions about me wrt chivalry. I am not saying ur attitude in making dark and negative assumptions is nasty because Rachelc is a girl. I would think ur attitude was nasty if the op was a man just the same. I looked thru ur previous posts and they were a litany of the same sort of dark, negative, often contradictory observations. So I wasnt surprised.

The quote u give is where Rachelc is desribing a particular personal conversation she had with the man so its important not to take it out of context. I see it as a lighthearted cajoling by her of a man who was not keen on revealing his feelings directly. This manner of interacting with someone does not mean u are mocking them or putting them down or having fun at their expense. it is a gentle fun way of interacting. Its a great pity u have reached the age of 55 without being able to understand that. When I read Rachelc's description of her friend I see her say things like "who was really cool and nice' and "I really like this guy'. She is not negative about the guy but rather wondering about the cultural aspects of their thing.

U say "Why doesn't she share this with the guy in question then if there is no harm intended, or that she does not find his awkward situation amusing and comical to herself" Well to me it is not at all odd to want to know what other people think about a social situation. And an anonymous social forum is specifically designed for that. Cool....good for her. U slight this forum often calling it "goofy" and "low brow" yet u post at length and often. I would much rather enjoy Rachelc's interesting and lighthearted conversation then urs.

U talk about "all about me blogs". Most blogs are personal. Thats the idea. And if Rachelc wants to spread her wings and date from different cultures and countries well I admire her openmindedness. U comparing it to sampling different cuisines is a shallow assumption. Why u feel free to make so many nasty assumption about other people is beyond me. Its destructive. To others and indeed to urself.

Lol at ur talk of "fanclub" and "little circles" :) I have exchanged words with Rachelc a couple of times here and in fact dont even live in Kunming......nor Yunnan for that matter. So ur energetic and nasty and ridiculous effort to mock our interaction is sad. It seems that normal social intercourse is not ur strong suit. Not much fun at parties huh?