Hey Yuanyangren
I couldn't agree more, it takes too people to end up in bed.

So even if there would be the horniest guy on earth, trying to get inside the pants of a girl that just doesn't want sex, I am sure nothing would happen.
So let's say any girl that ever says: "That guy took advantage of me, he promised....", tried to take as much advantage of the guy, as he did, she just got less. But if their expectations don't meet it's a lack of communication.

We are all into this for some payback: hormones, money, physical attractions, fun, addiction, plain horniness, finding our soulmate, you name it.

If it goes bad stop blaming it on either gender. If he wouldn't take advantage, she would, or you get (un/)lucky and one or both fall in love.

So, if you don't want to have sex, just don't do it.

If you expect something from sex (or after), other than the satisfactions of your physical needs, you are the idiot.

Sex isn't designed for love and payig bills, or a promise of an eternal love. It's designed for pleasure and procreation, not for BS.

It's as easy as that.

ps. "Thanks God!...for inventing 'IT' ".

It's almost easier than posting quadruple posts...should be a new sport!

The pay is not a problem, let's step aside from the assumption that poor farmers send their kids to the schools we work at.
If you see the prices charged at MyGym and WhatNot just for them to see a silly foreigner doing silly stuff.

You will be aware that the money is there and that a monthly tuition is NEVER less than 500Yuan and look at your class size and you will see where the money is.

In short the Schools have money they just don't invest it right.
As you probably know there is a hight drift towards quality and if quality is delivered then there will be $$.

Parents just send their kids to certain schools because, parents like anywhere just don't know what they want or where they can get it.
So they go by the elimination method they go from school to school, by price, or the teacher, or location, brand...etc.
Let them know what they will get (for real) and they will join (or at least come back). Chinese parents aren't stupid. The ones I met are awesome and understanding.

That is why you need an Academic Director, to restore quality, which you can sell then to customers as high quality. Plus the students results.

Universities are financed by the gov. but that doesn't mean that they don't have the money, it's just that they don't want to spend it where it's needed. Check what car your Uni. Dean is driving and the banquets they throw for even lower VIP guests (even us foreign teachers- at Bei Da in 2006).

If good,pro. teachers ask for the right jobs and the right pay then all other schools have to follow. (It's China but the same rules of business apply.) And they do...

Academic goals and demands is a different story.

Easy Peasy:
Pay high&realistic salaries and (not even 10.000Yuan is realistic) for a professional teacher-disregarding his/her qualifications.

After that put the a proper Academic Director in the office (Good teacher with training background or credentials). And laziness will disappear. (as well as a teacher here and there).

Unprofessional teachers end in unprofessional places. Unprofessional teachers in professional places, will get fired.
The School is responsible for the education standard and goals.
They have to observe teachers, plan teacher parent conferences, class observation, training and so on.

Btw. You can't compare an Expat salary with a local teacher, everyone in the Expat HR field will tell you that. Schools, Hospitals even the Army are businesses and have to be managed that way.

Imagine they would cancel all the Visas of the illegal teachers, it'll never happen because China needs the teachers and they will work hard when in the right team under right supervision and with a proper pay and benefit plan. Maybe even a career:)

Good education is expensive but profitable. So be smart build business models that make everyone happy...or at least happier.

Then everyone is winning.
It's quite easy in my experience,... if they let you. ;)

To be honest, it's just a bad excuse to not feel guilty if you don't help someone.
Yes there have been cases where "victims" sued the samaritan, but to what i've read in the news most of those cases have been lost and in few cases they victim was put in jail, for trying to make profit.

And the law changed thats why you see those videos in the bus with the everyday hero in it helping crash victims.
Don't have the link but I read it few days ago.
In January a scooter-girl got hit by a car in ShiJiCheng and this Chinese Bloke was doing a great job in First Aid at least as much for what we could do there and he was no medical staff. So I guess it's not always as bad as one thinks.

But yeah there are always some people staring but so is it in the US or EUROPE just that we have less people walking around...so, do the math. Also look at those spectators,... come on, not exactly the crowd you would invite over to dinner. Most of them lack Social Intelligence or plain courtesy but I guess that goes back to manners and education at home.

In my experience all the accidents I was present or involved in were all "normal" always someone calling the cops and ambulance and when I helped the only thing happened is the victims being very grateful.

So can't actually confirm that except those annoying onlookers. But we have them too back home, don't we?

What a silly question.

"Yes all foreigners want sex and fun, always and forever. Thats why no foreigner is married, have no homes and they don't make babies because they only want to have fun." ;)
What does it matter where the person is from?

ISn;t it a question of individualism. Everybody is equally different disregarding their culture.
But to answer your question, "No" not every foreigner is like that. Usually foreigners are more educated about sexuality and deal with it more openly but also more careless sometimes. Plus sex it's not stigmatized as it is in China for example.

But Laowai's come in all different 'characters'.

Something very similar to Asians I guess.

Some want fun and some want more, same as every Chinese guys.
Since cultural issues don't really matter at all for your case, just think about what you want in life and take it. If you want fun then use protection and make sure he doesn't break your heart. If you want more, then tell him to buzz off and wait a bit longer to find the right man for you.

Dudeson-out!