You can marry filing jointly by getting her an Individual Taxpayer Identification Number (ITIN). Using that as a non-resident alien, she should not be subject to FBAR or any of those requirements, but figuring out which taxes are owed will be really complicated. I looked into it myself a few years back and just dropped it. Definitely worth consulting an international tax expert.
Also, not sure why you're avoiding setting up any accounts in China. If you're using accounts in her name, the IRS may decide that you "have control" over the account, and you could get in trouble for not reporting on FATCA and FBAR.
Finally, if you plan to be away from the US for a while, you can save a ton of money by buying an international insurance plan, rather than a US plan.
Your Chinese bank account can handle wire transfers to any international bank account, but you need to provide the documentation. As a foreigner, you need to show proof that the money was legally earned and taxed in China. This can be provided by your employer's HR, or your CPA if you're a business owner. Chinese citizens can also transfer up to 50k USD per year with much less hassle.
Wire transfer is good for large amounts of money (from about 1000 USD up), because it is generally a flat rate of about 150 RMB per transfer.
The fees are for using the SWIFT system, and will be charged whether or not you open an account with a sister branch abroad. A Bank of China account overseas is, for all intents and purposes, the same as having an account with any foreign bank. There's no advantage there.
Simply pulling the money out at an overseas ATM from your Chinese bank card can actually be quite cheap. I just pulled 1000 USD in the states the other day, and between the fees and exchange rate, it cost me about 70 kuai. I've heard of people mailing a bank card home to friends or relatives to withdraw money using this method. Note that there is theoretically a limit of 100k CNY a year for this method, regardless of citizenship or employment status.
I haven't tried Paypal or Moneygram, but every legal method in China will be subject either to the 100k CNY annual limit, or the same documentation requirements described above. It really just comes down to cost and convenience.
When I first visited the Park soon after it opened, I realized that I hadn't set foot inside Green Lake Park in a few years. It's a beautiful place, but I simply did not enjoy All the noise and crowds that had come to define it after admission became free (down from a whopping 2 kuai, IIRC).
But James built a nice, quiet place in a beautiful old courtyard there, and I came to spend a lot of time there.
James and co built a really good menu, a very comfortable place and an unrivalled whisky list, the perfect recipe for a community hang-out, or even a quiet place to sip coffee and read in the sun during the day.
Thanks, James and everyone else at the Park, for making such a great place. We will all miss it, and look forward to seeing whatever it is you do next.